In early 2017, J. came to my office with a diagnosis of metastatic prostate cancer. He had been given only months to live after having gone through the traditional medical system treatment.
J. had trouble just walking into the office with his wife, and he really didn’t look good. Since then, he has taken responsibility for his health and is blessed to be one of the healthiest most vibrant people that I know. He still has cancer, but chances are that he won’t die from cancer, and can live life with eyes wide open as to what truly contributes to vibrant health and what makes someone’s body resort to cell division via anaerobic fermentation or cancer.
When J. came in he shared with me that he and his wife had purchased a boat in Alaska, with a goal of spending 3-4 months a year living on the boat and exploring Alaska. He sadly told me that he was going to sell the boat so his wife didn’t have to deal with it when he died. My response was, “J., you are going to Alaska!”.
The first year was very intense as far as what we needed to do to get his body functioning correctly. Including; getting his root canals removed, excavating cavitations and removal of all mercury - as well as removal of other metals in his mouth. We switched him to the KetoClean Lifestyle Eating Plan*, worked on his sleep issues, sent him to a cranial sacral osteopath, and referred him to a yoga class that used crystal bowls to open and connect his chakras. We also did RGCC testing and put him on a RGCC protocol and a general protocol based on Functional Testing.
He went to Alaska the first year and they called me almost weekly as his health was still marginal. The second year, he felt much better as a result of another year of hard work. Unfortunately, he fell on a beach and badly cut his hand on barnacles. When he went in for treatment they did lab work and told him his cancer had probably metastasized to his liver. Of course, he and his wife were in a panic and talked immediately of flying home. When they called me, I told them that he probably had elevated liver enzymes from the barnacles and the RGCC results that we had just gotten didn’t indicate a mets to the liver. The liver issue resolved, and they had a fairly good trip.
This year, I have just seen J. and his wife off to Alaska. He is doing phenomenally well and looks healthy and vibrant. The week before he left he overdid the tennis a bit playing five times in a week. His sleep issues have largely resolved and the energy in his head is vibrant and he is strong, healthy and happy. He was really looking forward to this trip and knows that he has come so far and that this journey has been one with many, many blessings.
The one caveat that I gave him was that he had to jump into the icy, cold water in the glacial bays they anchor in, daily. This is called cryotherapy and I often recommend it. When the body thinks it is going to freeze to death, it mobilizes all manner of wonderful healing mechanisms to save your life. This includes reducing inflammation significantly and strengthening your immune system. The good thing about having a boat anchored in Alaska, is that this is free medicine right outside your boat!
J. showed me a picture of a friend of theirs with snow on the deck of their boat at this time of year. I offered that this was a wonderful situation because he has the option of rolling in the snow for three minutes OR jumping into the icy, cold bay!
This is how I view taking a challenging yoga class. I often can’t do everything and very often feel challenged to stay with the class and keep going. What I know is that this challenge is going to benefit me greatly and that challenges are what makes us strong. It is never going down hills that increase our strength and endurance on a bike. It is riding up the mountains. Thank God for the mountains each day.
I often hear people say, “I’ve given up so much already, how much do I have to give up?”. Many times, they are cancer patients or patients with a degenerative disease that are struggling with a mindset issue.
My question to them is, what would you pay to be completely healthy and able to live your life fully, enjoying each and every day and moment, without the fear of how your disease is progressing?
What if you could look at the lifestyle change in terms of what you are gaining instead of what you are giving up? You can. This simply requires a mindset change. You are in control of what you your brain focuses on. No one else is in control. It is you that is making the decision to allow yourself to be in a suffering state. You get to choose each and every moment to either be in a suffering state or a beautiful state.
What if you could look at foods you once enjoyed (before knowing that they were contributing to your illness), beauty products you now know are toxic, cleaning products that have no place in your home, and be grateful that you know enough now to replace them with things that are good for you? What an empowering feeling it is to have the knowledge to make good decisions about what goes into your body!
What I see every day, is people who are mistaking a momentary pleasure for happiness. Pleasure is eating that cheesecake, or fried food, or drinking that alcoholic beverage. It is often confused in people’s mind with happiness. This is the power of marketing today. They have intentionally set out to confuse you about the difference between pleasure and happiness. Think about the Coke adds on television!
Happiness can only come from within. It is not dependent on what you eat or drink or paint on your toes!
So how do you find this elusive happiness? First of all you set your intention to be happy, no matter what your circumstances. Your illness is part of you. It is not separate from you but instead is a reflection of what you have experienced and caused yourself to experience in your life.
Practice a discipline that will allow you to look deeply into your soul and find truth. That is where your happiness resides. Once you have connected with the happiness within yourself, you will no longer mistake it for fleeting pleasure. You will never feel as if you are giving anything up to gain your health back.
Yoga is where I find my happiness. Just showing up on my mat and spending the next hour or more, focusing on my breath and doing the postures, reconnects me to that inner spring flowing happiness into my universe.
Learning not to judge myself, practicing compassion for what my body can do today and being thankful for my mat and my teacher is a valuable life lesson. Erasing judgement about the teacher, the students, the heat, the cold, my expectations are all part of my practice. Allowing frustration with what my body can and can’t do, accepting the challenge as being what I need that day and being thankful that I am there on my mat are all important lessons for me each time I go.
I have learned that the more I dislike a form of yoga, the more I have to learn from it and how profoundly important that the lesson will be for me.
So, going back to the question that I hear very often from people, “ I have given up so much already, what else do I have to give up?”. Well, the first thing is the attitude of being a victim. You are gaining your health! Write down what you would gladly pay to have that back again.
The second thing is to think about the difference between pleasure and happiness and to find a discipline that connects you to your inner source of happiness.
Let the happiness flow!